Book Suggestions

 
 

Website: www.changingmarriage.com/books
Summary: If half of all cars bought in America each year broke down, there would be a national uproar. But when people suggest that maybe every single marriage doesn’t look like the next and isn’t meant to last until death, there’s nothing but a rash of proposed laws trying to force it to do just that.

In The New I Do, therapist Susan Pease Gadoua and journalist Vicki Larson take a groundbreaking look at the modern shape of marriage to help readers open their minds to marrying more consciously and creatively. Offering actual models of less-traditional marriages, including everything from a parenting marriage (intended for the sake of raising and nurturing children) to a comfort or safety marriage (where people marry for financial security or companionship), the book covers unique options for couples interested in forging their own paths.

With advice and quizzes to help readers decide what works for them, The New I Do acts as a guide to thinking outside the marital box and the framework for a new debate on marriage in the 21st century.


 

Website: www.changingmarriage.com/books
Summary: Just as there are right and wrong reasons to marry, there are good and bad reasons to divorce. Some couples are quick to split because they are unwilling to devote the necessary effort to fixing their relationships or to understanding their partners, while others miss out on personal fulfillment by staying too long in unhealthy marriages.
This insightful and practical guide, written by a therapist with nearly a decade of experience counseling those considering divorce, will help you evaluate your marriage to determine whether you should stay or go. Without bias toward or against the option of divorce, Contemplating Divorce includes helpful tools to guide you to the right decision. Use the tests and relationship evaluations to assess your level of fulfillment in your marriage. Learn about the five types of needs happy marriages satisfy. Find out how to fix 'problem areas' in your relationship. Plan for the future, whether you decide to stay or move on.


 

Website: www.changingmarriage.com/books
Summary: It's no secret that divorce is one of life's most stressful experiences. While this transition may be painful, it can also awaken you to new possibilities and help you discover who you are and what you really want in life. Stronger Day by Day helps you get started on that new path by offering five-minute reflections, affirmations, and short journal exercises you can use each day to stay hopeful and emotionally centered as you move through this difficult time and eventually emerge with renewed confidence and strength.

 

 

About the Author

 
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Susan Pease Gadoua, LCSW

Psychotherapist & Best-selling Author

As a child of divorced parents, Susan knows first-hand how disruptive an unhappy marriage and subsequent marital dissolution can be. When her mother and father split in 1981 (on their 28th wedding anniversary), marriage counseling was unheard of and emotional divorce support virtually nonexistent. [+] Susan's personal experience, combined with years of working with couples in distress – both in striving to save their marriage or transition out of it – led her to become passionate about offering support to people at perhaps one of the most crucial junctures in their lives.
In 2000, Susan founded the Transition Institute of Marin, and she developed an entire agency dedicated to helping men and women take care of their emotions when their relationship was in turmoil.
In just a few years, the organization grew to the point where it needed a broader reach. Today, The Changing Marriage Institute has a national, and indeed international, audience. Susan also began changing the focus from almost exclusively on the divorce transition toward all kinds of relationship concerns, including alternative ways of coupling.
There still exists today a great deal of shame for those who are not following the "traditional, one-size-fits-all" marriage paradigm. The goal of much of Susan's work is to turn that around by helping people let go of shame and get on the other side of the pain.
Susan is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and a Certified Mediato